by Unlimited Coaching Solutions, Inc. on April 30th, 2018

OK, well maybe “win” an argument isn’t the best way to position this. If we’re just out to win, our intention probably isn’t in the right place. However, if we want to win and we’d like the other person to win too, well that’s a better story, and that’s the story I’m talking about here.

To Ponder: Typically we’re in an argument because we want to get our point across. We want to convince someone of something. If our intent is in the right place, our voice tone won’t be defensive. We’ll be open to discussion. And then we can use the tool that will make the biggest difference - DiSC®.

DiSC® can help us understand that we all have different priorities and perspectives. If we come to our conversations realizing this, we can speak that person’s language. We can think about how the topic we’re arguing for, impacts that person’s priorities, stressors and/or motivators.

For example, if John needs to get the product out the door really fast because that’s what he’s promised his customer, but Jess is focused on making the quality the best it can be and doesn’t want to rush it, they both need to be aware of each other’s priorities. Combined with the best intent, they can be open to discussion rather than fighting with each other. Their combined goal is the make the customer happy, not win the argument.

Take Action: The next time you find yourself about to argue and you’re caught up in winning, step back and consider your intent. Re-align yourself to what’s important big picture and then think about that person’s DiSC® style and role in the organization. You might start the conversation with genuinely showing how you understand their position and say something like this: “We both want to find the best solution for our customer. Let’s find a way to do this.”  

MyEverythingDiSC.com is your own exclusive site free to anyone who has taken a DiSC® product with us. Check out this video to learn more!  
  

by Unlimited Coaching Solutions, Inc. on March 22nd, 2018

​All this talk of how to make your workplace happier. It’s quite simple. Be more human. | Unlimited Coaching | Laurie Sudbrink #employeeengagement #leadershipdevelopment

​All this talk of how to make your workplace happier. It’s quite simple. Be more human.

​To Ponder:
Seriously - just be more like a human than a robot. Be more approachable. Be more considerate. How about being cordial, democratic, forgiving, friendly, generous, gracious… shall I continue?  Everything you need to create a happier workplace - you already have.

I can remember searching for ways to make people happier, through gift cards and lunches - when I had every opportunity to stop and recognize Jackie for staying late when she didn’t have to, and telling Steve what a terrific job he did on the report, even though it was his job, and listening to Javier’s ideas, even when I felt rushed and pressured… I was missing the most obvious and simple way to create a happier environment - just being present and connecting with people.

Even when we’re giving feedback and ‘helping people stay on track’ (aka holding people accountable), if we do this with a more humane approach, it will get way better results.

Imagine, you could have people listening and following through, stepping up and being accountable, proactively looking for solutions, helping each other, and working toward a collective goal rather than in silos or worse yet, just out for themselves.

Admittedly, it can be complicated at times, because people are different. And we don’t always see things the way other people see them.

​The good news is, you have a great tool to help you - DiSC! But like any tool, if you don’t use it properly, it won’t work.

Take Action:
You could make a profound difference starting today - without spending a dime.

Take 10 minutes a day and jump on your private MyEverythingDiSC.com account. Run a comparison report (and yes, that is free). With that report, you can look at building relationships, getting buy-in, giving and receiving feedback, managing tension, and working on a project.

The site contains drop-down tips and podcasts:
​All this talk of how to make your workplace happier. It’s quite simple. Be more human. | Unlimited Coaching | Laurie Sudbrink #employeeengagement #leadershipdevelopment
​Take a few minutes each day to be mindful of how best to interact with the people you work with. It will save you so much time on miscommunication, tension, unnecessary conflict - and it will build loyalty, commitment, and trust.

It’s a simple and free way to start making your workplace happier and more productive.
If you don’t have your account yet, email Jessica and she’ll hook you up. No fees. Just a cool tool!


PS - we’re launching another new cool tool over at Laurie’s new business venture, GRITtyStuff.com.  If you’d like one of these message boards for your office or home, just email us for an exclusive 25% off discount code!

by Unlimited Coaching Solutions, Inc. on February 21st, 2018

I get this question a lot. What style is best suited for leadership?

To Ponder: Let’s consider another question before I answer that first question. What if your style is not the best style for leadership?

What would you do? Change your personality? Give up on leadership?  Of course not. And lucky you don’t have to! Because there is no single best style for leadership.

When you consider the traits leaders need, you see that we need many that are spread across all 4 DiSC styles, and some aren’t even correlated to DiSC!

Take Action: Consider your DiSC style and what natural strengths you have that influence your leadership tendencies. Then think about what might take more energy or effort for you. (If you have taken a Work of Leaders report, you can review it to help you see how your DiSC style influences your leadership tendencies.)

We need some of all of the styles!  There will be skills and characteristics that take us more energy and effort, and some that come naturally. Think of just one that you could benefit from doing more or less of.

Then, use my 5 Steps of Change to focus more energy or effort in one area:
 
Step 1 - Use self-awareness to discover the area where you need to focus more energy.

Step 2 - What’s in it for you to do so? Why is it important?

Step 3 - How will you do it? It might be a matter of setting yourself reminders, or maybe getting a coach to help.

Step 4 - Do it. Don’t wait. Take a step now. Use the 5-second rule if you find yourself procrastinating.

Step 5 - Put systems in place now to help you stay on track. Plan for obstacles, it’s part of life.  

​Let us know what one area you’ll focus on. Which step of the 5 Steps of Change might trip you up? What obstacles do you foresee?  



If you need a little extra help with keeping this self-reflection top of mind, you’re in luck!  I’ve got the perfect tool for you.  I *just* released my Get Your GRIT Together Planner that prompts you to consider your potential obstacles and self-reflect on your work.  

Stay tuned for your super-duper exclusive low price next week!

Can’t wait? I don’t blame ya! Go ahead and visit www.GRITtyStuff.com to grab a 30% off coupon code and buy your GRIT planner now!

by Unlimited Coaching Solutions, Inc. on January 22nd, 2018

​You don’t have to struggle with getting people to buy-in to your ideas. There is a proven method and you already have everything you need.

To Ponder:  Do you ever wonder how someone can be so far apart from your way of thinking? You have a vision of how the project should roll out, and someone on the team has a completely different way of looking at it. Or they just don’t see it the way you do. And it becomes an issue, an obstacle, a nuisance, or just a time waster.
Get Buy-in With This One Simple Technique from Laurie Sudbrink #leadingwithGRIT

Getting buy-in from our peers, our direct reports, and even our manager can take a bit of effort, but can certainly be worth it when you consider the pain of not getting that buy in.

One of the best ways to gain buy-in, is to allow people to weigh in (I first heard it said this way by Patrick Lencioni and it aligned so nicely with my GRIT methodology). The way we do this is very important. Considering a person’s DiSC style and what they prioritize, their stressors and fears will allow you to listen and focus on the areas that are important to them. The person will feel validated, connected to and respected.

Take Action: Practice ahead of time so you’re ready when you need to invite people to weigh in. As soon as you feel resistance, it’s time to allow someone to weigh in. How you will do that depends on their style. If you go on over to MyEverythingDiSC.com and compare someone with your style, you can then get tips about how to gain buy-in with that style. Below is a sample of tips you’ll receive, depending on your style and their style. (Feel free to compare with me if you just want to try it out first.)  
​If you don’t have your free MyEverythingDiSC.com site and your DiSC profile(s) loaded, you can sign up for free. Our DiSC guru Jessica will send you some help videos if you’d like them. (Click here to request video help for using your MyEverythingDiSC site.)
 

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by Unlimited Coaching Solutions, Inc. on December 19th, 2017

As we run around trying to find that special gift, remember your presence might be the best present you ever give.

In our relationships, being receptive and truly present is critical – not only for the other person or people, but for ourselves. When we can turn off the thoughts and tune into the “now”, we become authentic; we are less stressed, more effective, and a lot happier.
This can be difficult in the world we live. We have a lot going on! And certainly the challenges for each DiSC style vary. But it’s safe to say, for most of us, it just takes practice. And we often resist that practice because we don’t see an immediate payoff.

The value of being present can be tough to measure. But with a little attention, you will see the results - they are undeniable. The amount of time it takes to perform a task decreases, due to your focus and your desire, and this spreads to the person with whom you are present. They feel connected; they feel like you care; and they reciprocate.

Take Action: Take time to be mindful. Practice being present in the moment. Schedule it. Make it part of your routine.

HOW TO BE PRESENT: Being present is about quieting your mind and just being in the moment. We can practice this anywhere. Just keep focusing on the one thing that’s in the “now.” Bring your mind back when it wanders off.

For example, while brushing your teeth, practice by thinking only of your teeth, the toothbrush, the bristles, your tongue… you get it. If you brush your teeth for 1 or 2 minutes twice a day, it becomes routine to practice presence. Then you can add it into driving, and other habitual, daily activities that you’re already doing. Even breathing can be a great place to practice.

Then start practicing with people. When your mind travels, consider stopping the conversation and asking for a rewind! “I’m sorry, my thoughts just got hooked elsewhere, can you repeat that?” Most people will appreciate your openness, and since we all do it, it’s a great way to connect, be authentic, and show you’re human!

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